Amanda Kloots Lost the Life She Planned. Then Built One She Never Expected

I would be in the bathroom at the hospital in the ICU, squeeze expressing into the sink all of the milk. And then I would be going back and sitting next to my husband in a coma. Welcome back to Superwomen. Today's guest is someone who used to train me in my home gym. We were training products for training because I couldn't afford her. Amanda Clutes is a world

renowned, not only trainer, but entrepreneur, founder of Proper. She has a TV show. She is a mother to the cutest little boy ever. And I'm happy to call her a friend. Nothing I've done has been like an immediate worldwide success. How do you do this? Because you're an entrepreneur, you have all these successful businesses, and then you have motherhood. It's crazy how much we take

on as mothers. And so sometimes you think I don't have enough support. You have to like find that grid again and you have to like humble yourself and take yourself down back to like the bolts and nuts of building a business and why and your story and finding that new community you're constantly competing with people that are just as talented as you just as beautiful as you working harder than

you and so you just have to like learn to appreciate and love yourself and believe in yourself I'm Rebecca Minkoff, and this is Superwomen. Each week, inspiring women are interviewed to uncover the unexpected journeys, the challenges, and the unwavering spirit that makes them powerful.

Get ready to be motivated by stories of resilience and discover the keys to unlocking your own potential. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you for having me.

I love being here. I love seeing you. I know. I felt like you abandoned me in New York and I never saw you again. I just have to tell you, like, I forget how we got introduced or how we met.

Does Dasha sound familiar? Oh, maybe. But I just remember being like, oh, my gosh, I was so excited to meet you and train you. And you were so kind and loving. And I could tell just like such a wonderful mother.

and I just loved it. Like I did love secretly. I feel like I could tell you that now without like sounding like a geek. And I was on the other side of it being like, I can't afford a trainer, but hopefully she likes my leather jackets. I did. And I felt like a million bucks because I, I'm pretty sure your line was like the first designer, anything that I had. So yeah. And

do you remember you told me you were pregnant before you told anybody else? Yes. And I feel like weren't you a little bit witchy and like you you were like I kind of had a feeling you you were I feel like you did like a motion for me to follow and I was like that is someone that's pregnant that's the oh that's you only do that when you're pregnant oh my gosh I love that you remember that

yeah because I was so touched I was like husband doesn't even know yet how do I keep this a secret but I knew I could trust you because you I you were such a great mama and you would talk to me a lot about being a mom and how hard that is and how hard being an entrepreneur and a business owner and a mom and a wife is. And so, yeah. I'm glad you appreciated it. I scared someone last

night who's trying to get pregnant. I was like, this is what you have to do. You have to go to get muscle tested, bring the sperm with you. They'll make sure you're not allergic to the sperm. And she was like, who are you and why are you telling me these weird things? I mean, it is crazy how easy it can be for some people and then how hard it can be for others. And

that gap is so huge and it just doesn't seem fair. No, it's not fair. And you don't, you can't, you can, there's not one source. Oh, it was because they lived near an electrical grid, right? Right. Like it's just wild. So we're lucky to, to get the guys we got. And yes, it is so true. And anytime I'm like wishing I could have more children or, you know, thinking about trying to have another child, I just look at Elvis and I'm just like, I am so blessed to have this little boy, even if it's just one in my life. I have him and he's healthy and he's happy. And it's like, it's such a miracle. Like children are such a miracle.

It's true. When you think about like one egg and all those sperm and like everything that could go wrong, like the DNA doesn't split right or whatever. It's just wild. And you know what's crazy is, so I was 35. Nick and I were together. I'd already been married.

I'd gone through my first marriage divorced. When I got divorced, I got my, you know, everything tested, of course. And that doctor was like, you have low everything, low egg count. All the numbers are low.

You should have started trying years ago. You're going to have the hardest time getting pregnant. Of course, I went into like early depression about that ever happening to me because I come from a family of five and we are all so close. My siblings are my best friends and all I ever

wanted was a family. And so you're so sad. And then I remember when Nick and I were like thinking about trying, I got tested again, same results, of course. And I just thought I was going to have the hardest time getting pregnant. Our second try naturally with no help at all, I got pregnant and had Elvis at 38. And it just like, again, goes to show you, you never know, but also like,

don't believe what you're told by doctors also like, cause you just never know. And for all intents and purposes, I look back at that now and I'm like, he is a miracle. He is a miracle. Second chance, I got pregnant, had him before I lost my husband. So I have my son.

Like, it's just a miracle. It is a miracle. And I think that if you also have a doctor that talks to you that way, like there's a way to phrase it.

Like, we need to get you healthy and we need to like tune you up and whatever versus you're infertile and good luck. Yeah. Two doctors told me.

Isn't that terrible? They're the worst. And it was before I was wise enough to know that there's better doctors out there. I just was green and first time trying.

So I was just like, oh gosh, my life is over.