Possessives — mon ma mes

they agree with the thing owned, not with the ownerA1

In one line

son means both "his" and "her" — because it agrees with the thing owned, not with the owner.

The forms on this page

FormMeansSound
monmy — before a masculine noun/mɔ̃/
mamy — before a feminine noun/ma/
mesmy — before a plural. It is “meh”, not “mess”/me/

The table

Owner+ masculine+ feminine+ plural
mymon /mɔ̃/ma /ma/mes /me/
your (singular)ton /tɔ̃/ta /ta/tes /te/
his · her · itsson /sɔ̃/sa /sa/ses /se/
ournotre /notʁ/notre /notʁ/nos /no/
your (plural)votre /votʁ/votre /votʁ/vos /vo/
theirleur /lœʁ/leur /lœʁ/leurs /lœʁ/

The last three rows have no gender — notre, votre, leur are the same for masculine and feminine and change only in the plural.

The rule that is the opposite of English

English possessives look at the owner:

his bookthe owner is male
her bookthe owner is female

French possessives look at the thing owned:

son livre /sɔ̃ livʁ/his book or her book — because livre /livʁ/ is masculine
sa voiture /sa vwa.tyʁ/his car or her car — because voiture /vwa.tyʁ/ is feminine

So sa mère means "his mother" and "her mother" and there is no way to tell from the phrase itself. If it genuinely matters, French adds it: sa mère à lui (his mother).

This is the mistake English speakers make most often and go on making longest, because the instinct fires before you have finished the noun. The fix is to change the order in which you decide. Do not ask "is the owner male or female?" — that question has no bearing on anything. Ask "is livre masculine?" and answer that.

English is the odd one out here, not French. German, Spanish and Italian all agree with the noun; English moved the agreement to the owner and few other European languages followed.

Exception — ma becomes mon before a vowel

If a feminine noun starts with a vowel or a silent h, the masculine form is used:

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ma amiemon amie
ta écoleton école
sa histoireson histoire

This is not a change of gender, only of sound. amie is still feminine: mon amie est gentille.

The same for ta → ton and sa → son.

leur — and the s that only comes with a noun

Pronunciation
leur livretheir book — one book/lœʁ livʁ/
leurs livrestheir books — several/lœʁ livʁ/
Je leur parle.the pronoun — never takes an s/ʒə lœʁ paʁl/

That pronoun is covered in pronoms-coi.

notre/votre vs nos/vos

These have no gender, only number:

SingularPlural
ournotre maison /notʁ mɛ.zɔ̃/
notre livre /notʁ livʁ/
nos maisons /no mɛ.zɔ̃/
yourvotre maison /votʁ mɛ.zɔ̃/
votre livre /votʁ livʁ/
vos maisons /vo mɛ.zɔ̃/

When you do not use a possessive — body parts

With body parts French uses the article, not a possessive:

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Je lave mes mains.Je me lave les mains.
Il a mal à sa tête.Il a mal à la tête.
Elle ouvre ses yeux.Elle ouvre les yeux.

Ownership comes from the reflexive verb or from context. English always says "my hands", so this is one of the most frequent slips.

Exception: if the body part carries an adjective, the possessive comes back: ses longs cheveux.

Two other ways to say who owns something

StructureExample
de /də/ + nounle livre de Marie /lə livʁ də ma.ʁi/
à /a/ + pronoun, after être /ɛtʁ/Ce livre est à moi. /sə livʁ ɛ.t‿a mwa/

The detail is in a-ou-de.

Examples

EnglishFrenchPronunciation
My book.Mon livre./mɔ̃ livʁ/
My house.Ma maison./ma mɛ.zɔ̃/
My friend (female).Mon amie./mɔ̃.n‿a.mi/
My books.Mes livres./me livʁ/
His car. · Her car.Sa voiture./sa vwa.tyʁ/
Our house.Notre maison./nɔtʁ mɛ.zɔ̃/
Your books.Vos livres./vo livʁ/
Their house.Leur maison./lœʁ mɛ.zɔ̃/
I wash my hands.Je me lave les mains./ʒə mə lav le mɛ̃/
I have a headache.J'ai mal à la tête./ʒe mal a la tɛt/

Common mistakes

❌✅Why
ma amiemon amieThe masculine form before a vowel
son for a man, sa for a womanagree with the nounThe owner plays no part
leurs maisonleur maisonIt is one house
Je lave mes mains.Je me lave les mains.Body parts take the article
notre livresnos livresThe plural is nos
mon ma livremon livreOne is enough

Why French does not look at the owner

an inheritance from Latin that English gave up

In Latin the possessive agreed with the noun beside it, like any other adjective:

LatinMeaningPronunciation
liber suushis/her book — masculine/li.be sy.y/
casa suahis/her house — feminine/ka.za sy.a/

French kept this untouched. son and sa come straight from suus and sua.

English went another way and moved the agreement from the noun to the owner — his/her. That is rare in European languages; German, Spanish and Italian all behave like French.

English used to do it the French way too. Old English his served for "his" and "its", and the possessive agreed with its noun in gender and case like any other adjective. The whole system collapsed along with the rest of English inflection between about 1100 and 1400, and the modern his/her/its split — with "its" not even attested before the 1500s — is what was left. So this is not French doing something exotic. It is English having lost something, comparatively recently.

The practical point: when you want to say "his book", do not think about that person's gender at all. Just ask: is livre masculine or feminine? Masculine → son.

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