You're Actually Not Bothering People Enough
The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

You're Actually Not Bothering People Enough

B2Upper-intermediateAugust 10, 202626 min
  • Documentary
  • Relationships & psychology

Most of us hate asking for favors. We worry about being a burden, coming across as needy, or facing rejection for asking too much. But what if our fear of bothering people is stopping us, and the people around us, from becoming happier? Dr. Laurie explores why our instincts about asking for help are usually wrong. She speaks with psychologist Nicholas Epley about why asking others for help can actually make them like us more. And author and entrepreneur Jia Jiang shares how 100 days of asking for outlandish favors totally transformed his life. Experts Mentioned:<...

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Hey, Happiness Lab listeners. We're finally coming to the end of our Happiness Hot Takes series, whole season in which I've been calling out the bad happiness advice that I hear so often

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on the internet. For our final hot take, we're heading back into the Happiness Lab archives to revisit the misconception that I struggle with myself. Many of us find it hard to ask for support, either because we're afraid of inconveniencing

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other people, or we don't want to come off as too needy. We're taught to handle things on our own, even at times when we really could use a helping hand. But today's hot take is this.

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