Talking about likes and dislikes

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Verbs of liking take the definite article — J'aime le café, not du café — unless an infinitive comes in between, in which case the second verb decides: J'aime boire du café.

Phrases

Liking — in order of strength

FrenchPronunciationEnglishStrength
J'adore…/ʒa.dɔʁ/I lovevery strong
J'aime beaucoup…/ʒɛm bo.ku/I really likestrong
J'aime bien…/ʒɛm bjɛ̃/I quite likemoderate
J'aime…/ʒɛm/I like — with a person it means lovestrong
Ça me plaît./sa mə plɛ/I like itneutral
Je suis fan de…/ʒə sɥi fan də/I'm a fan ofinformal
Je suis passionné(e) de…/ʒə sɥi pa.sjɔ.ne də/I'm passionate aboutemphatic
J'ai un faible pour…/ʒe œ̃ fɛbl puʁ/I have a soft spot formild

J'aime bien is less than J'aime, not more. That bien weakens the verb — the opposite of what an English speaker expects, since English adverbs always intensify ("I like it a lot", "I really like it").

And with a person the difference matters enormously: Je t'aime means "I love you"; Je t'aime bien means "I like you". Adding a word makes it less romantic, not more.

Disliking

FrenchPronunciationEnglishStrength
Je n'aime pas trop…/ʒə nɛm pa tʁo/I'm not keen onmild
Je n'aime pas…/ʒə nɛm pa/I don't likeneutral
Je n'aime pas du tout…/ʒə nɛm pa dy tu/I don't like it at allfirm
Je déteste…/ʒə de.tɛst/I hatestrong
J'ai horreur de…/ʒe ɔ.ʁœʁ də/I can't standstrong
Ça ne me plaît pas./sa nə mə plɛ pa/I don't like itneutral
Ce n'est pas mon truc./sə nɛ pa mɔ̃ tʁyk/it's not my thinginformal
Ça m'est égal./sa mɛt e.ɡal/I don't mindindifferent
Bof./bɔf/mehinformal

Preferring

FrenchPronunciationEnglish
Je préfère…/ʒə pʁe.fɛʁ/I prefer
J'aime mieux…/ʒɛm mjø/I'd rather
Plutôt… que…/ply.to kə/rather … than
Si je devais choisir, …/si ʒə də.vɛ ʃwa.ziʁ/if I had to choose
Entre les deux, je choisis…/ɑ̃tʁ le dø ʒə ʃwa.zi/between the two, I'd pick

Asking about taste

FrenchPronunciationEnglish
Tu aimes… ?/ty ɛm/do you like…?
Ça te plaît ?/sa tə plɛ/do you like it?
Qu'est-ce que tu préfères ?/kɛs.kə ty pʁe.fɛʁ/which do you prefer?
Tu aimes quel genre de… ?/ty ɛm kɛl ʒɑ̃ʁ də/what kind of … do you like?
Qu'est-ce que tu penses de… ?/kɛs.kə ty pɑ̃s də/what do you think of…?
Et toi, tu aimes ça ?/e twa ty ɛm sa/and you, do you like it?

The article after a verb of liking

When the noun comes directly after the verb, it always takes the definite article, never the partitive:

✅❌
J'aime le café.J'aime du café.
J'adore la musique.J'adore de la musique.
Je déteste les épinards.Je déteste des épinards.

Whereas with verbs of eating and drinking, the partitive appears:

Pronunciation
Je bois du café.I'm drinking coffee/ʒə bwa dy ka.fe/
J'aime le café.I like coffee — as a whole/ʒɛm lə ka.fe/

The logic is that taste applies to the whole thing, not to a quantity of it.

English uses no article at all here — "I like coffee" — so the French le has to be added deliberately. It is the commonest single error in this whole topic.

But if an infinitive comes in between, the rule changes

That rule works only when the noun is the object of the liking verb itself. As soon as an infinitive comes between them, the noun is no longer the object of aimer — it is the object of the second verb, and takes its article from there:

No infinitive — definiteWith an infinitive — the second verb decides
J'aime le café. /ʒɛm lə ka.fe/J'aime boire du café. /ʒɛm bwaʁ dy ka.fe/
J'adore la musique. /ʒa.dɔʁ la my.zik/J'adore écouter de la musique. /ʒa.dɔʁ e.ku.te də la my.zik/
Je déteste la viande. /ʒə de.tɛst la vjɑ̃d/Je déteste manger de la viande. /ʒə de.tɛst mɑ̃.ʒe də la vjɑ̃d/
J'aime le sport. /ʒɛm lə spɔʁ/J'aime faire du sport. /ʒɛm fɛʁ dy spɔʁ/

Look at the verb attached to the noun, not at the first verb in the sentence.

The three-second test

Remove the verb of liking and see what is left:

SentenceRemove the liking verbResult
J'aime écouter de la musique. /ʒɛm e.ku.te də la my.zik/J'écoute de la musique. ✅the article belongs to écouter /e.ku.te/ → de la /də la/
J'aime la musique. /ʒɛm la my.zik/nothing is leftthe article belongs to aimer /ɛ.me/ → la /la/

And la after an infinitive is not wrong — it changes the meaning

Pronunciation
J'aime écouter de la musique.I like listening to music — the activity, an unspecified amount/ʒɛm e.ku.te də la my.zik/
Écoute la musique, c'est du Debussy !listen to this music — a specific piece/e.kut la my.zik sɛ dy də.by.si/

When in doubt, use the partitive after an infinitive. For everyday verbs (écouter · boire · manger · faire · acheter) that is almost always right.

Examples

EnglishFrenchPronunciation
I like coffeeJ'aime le café./ʒɛm lə ka.fe/
I like drinking coffeeJ'aime boire du café./ʒɛm bwaʁ dy ka.fe/
I like listening to musicJ'aime écouter de la musique./ʒɛm e.ku.te də la my.zik/
I hate meatJe déteste la viande./ʒə de.tɛst la vjɑ̃d/
I hate eating meatJe déteste manger de la viande./ʒə de.tɛst mɑ̃.ʒe də la vjɑ̃d/
I love playing sportJ'adore faire du sport./ʒa.dɔʁ fɛʁ dy spɔʁ/
Listen to this music!Écoute la musique !/e.kut la my.zik/

Common mistakes

❌✅Why
J'aime du café.J'aime le café.The direct object of aimer is always definite
J'aime boire le café.J'aime boire du café.Here the noun belongs to boire, not aimer
Je déteste manger la viande.Je déteste manger de la viande.The same — manger decides
J'aime faire le sport.J'aime faire du sport.faire du sport takes the partitive
Je n'aime pas de café.Je n'aime pas le café.le is not a quantity; it does not drop in the negative
J'aime à lire.J'aime lire.aimer takes a bare infinitive

plaire — a verb that works backwards

With plaire à, the thing being liked is the subject:

EnglishFrenchSubjectPronunciation
I like this filmCe film me plaît.the film/sə film mə plɛ/
I like itÇa me plaît.it/sa mə plɛ/
He likes FranceLa France lui plaît.France/la fʁɑ̃s lɥi plɛ/

And in the past:

Ce film m'a plu. — I liked that film

The participle of plaire never agrees — its object is indirect: Elle m'a plu, not plue.

English has one verb that does this too and you already handle it: "it pleases me", and more commonly "it appeals to me". plaire is that structure as the everyday form.

Traps

TrapExplanation
J'aime bien is weaker than J'aimeThe bien reduces the strength.
Je t'aime is romanticFor friendship, Je t'aime bien.
Definite article after a verb of likingJ'aime le café, not du café.
But J'aimerais is not about tasteIn the conditional, aimer means "I'd like" — and takes a partitive: J'aimerais du café., not le café.
plaire has its subject reversedCe film me plaît — the film is the subject.
aimer + infinitive with no prepositionJ'aime lire, not à lire.
An infinitive in between changes the articleJ'aime le café but J'aime boire du café.
préférer takes a bare infinitiveJe préfère partir.
Bof is not rude but it is coldDo not use it in a formal conversation.

aimer — and the four levels you have to distinguish

one verb that covers both friendship and love

French uses aimer for both and marks the difference with an adverb:

StructureWith a personWith a thingPronunciation
J'aimeloveI like/ʒɛm/
J'aime bienI like them, as a friendI quite like/ʒɛm bjɛ̃/
J'aime beaucoupI'm very fond of them — friendlyI really like/ʒɛm bo.ku/
J'adorefriendly, enthusiasticI love it/ʒa.dɔʁ/

Two important points:

1. With a person, J'aime beaucoup is not romantic. The beaucoup is the odd one out: it increases the quantity and removes the love:

Je t'aime. — I love you Je t'aime beaucoup. — I'm very fond of you, as a friend

2. With a person, J'adore is not romantic either — it is enthusiasm:

J'adore ma sœur. — I love my sister (as a sister)

So Je t'aime alone is the romantic one, and any adverb added to it moves it away from love.

English works the other way round and this is a real hazard. "I love you" and "I love you so much" are both romantic; adding an intensifier strengthens the declaration. In French, adding anything to Je t'aime demotes it to friendship.

The practical rule: with friends, say Je t'aime bien or Je t'aime beaucoup — never Je t'aime on its own.

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